How To Talk To Your Parents About Estate Planning?

Sterling Law Office • August 19, 2024

Share this article

No one ever wants to imagine a day where your parents are no more. It is one of the ugly parts of growing up and old. At the same time, you might wonder if they have an estate plan in place. It is the best way to diffuse tension within siblings and other family members after their demise. However, the first step towards talking to your parents about estate planning in Brampton is learning all about estate planning. 

How does estate planning work in Ontario? 

In Ontario, an estate plan helps you to manage and distribute your assets upon your death. It is not just limited to monetary wealth and extends to jewellery, art pieces, and any sentimental objects you own. During estate planning, you may also want to appoint Powers of Attorney for Property and Personal Care. They take on the legal responsibility of making decisions on your behalf if you become incapacitated. Without a will, the Succession Law Reform Act dictates how your estate will be divided, which may or may not align with your choices. 

When helping your parents with estate planning, make sure the will meets Ontario’s Estate Administration Tax laws. For the very same reason , it’s sometimes smart to set up a trust, which protects their assets and controls how they’re used after your parents pass away. 

7 tips to talk to your parents about estate planning: 

1. Choose the Right Time and Place

Do not insert estate planning talk during a family get together or when things are stressed. Instead, find a quiet moment when you can have a one-on-one conversation. Make sure that they understand your intention of looking out for them. Do not give them any tips on how to divide their assets as that must be their independent choice. 

2. Start with Their Concerns

Ask them what they want to happen with their home, investments, or treasured possessions. Sometimes, parents need help with major issues like estate planning but may feel awkward asking for help. 

3. Explain the Benefits of an Estate Plan

Talk to them in simple words how an estate plan ensures their wishes are carried out and can save the family from disputes later. In Ontario, if someone dies without a will, the estate is distributed according to the Succession Law Reform Act , which takes away their agency. 

4. Ask About Their Fears and Misconceptions

Many parents might fear that talking about estate planning means they’re giving up control or admitting they won’t be around forever. Reassure them that estate planning is about empowerment, not surrender. The sooner they start planning, the more time they’ll have to enjoy life’s other joys without worrying about what comes next.

5. Include All Relevant Documents

In Ontario, when creating an estate plan, your parents might also want to include a Power of Attorney (POA) for property and personal care, and possibly a living will. If they become incapacitated, they’ll have someone to manage their affairs according to their wishes. 

6. Bring Them Resources 

For estate and will planning in Brampton, they would need a family lawyer and an estate lawyer that can introduce them to Ontario’s estate laws. Pick lawyers that have worked with parents your age, so they can simplify legal jargons in a way they understand and not feel overwhelmed. You may not want to visit the lawyer’s office as a way to respect their privacy, but if they insist, make time for it and ask the right questions. 

7. Respect Their Wishes

Even if you disagree with some of their decisions, respect their autonomy. Your goal should be to make them feel comfortable and confident about their choices. Do not ask them about the assets you’ll be inheriting and that you want more. 

Estate planning is an ongoing process, which requires revisiting as and when circumstances change. Encourage your parents to review their estate plan from time to time after major life events including the birth of a grandchild or sale of a major asset.

Our family lawyers at Sterling Law specialise in estate planning and are happy to help you get started. Please feel free to reach out for a free first consultation (15 minutes only).

Recent Posts

Wedding rings: Interracial couple holding hands, one wearing a lace dress, the other in a navy suit.
February 6, 2026
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! This is a season of profound joy and shared aspirations. However, as you prepare for your life together in the Greater Toronto Area, it is also a time for "forward-thinking planning." At Sterling Law, we view ourselves as your partners in life, wealth, and legacy. Based in Brampton for over 30 years, our team, led by Helen Sterling Clarke, has helped thousands of couples in Mississauga, Oakville, and across the Peel Region navigate the legal complexities of joining two lives. While discussing a prenuptial agreement (often called a "Marriage Contract" in Ontario) might not feel like the most romantic pre-wedding task, it is one of the most strategic moves you can make to protect your assets and secure your family’s future. In fact, thirty-eight percent of Canadians who marry will eventually separate or divorce. A well-drafted agreement isn't about planning for failure; it’s about taking control of your financial destiny and bringing peace of mind to your new household. What is a Prenuptial Agreement Under Ontario Law? In Ontario, the Family Law Act governs how property is divided between spouses upon separation or death. Without a private agreement, the law dictates a process called the "Equalization of Net Family Property." This process essentially adds up the growth in each spouse's net worth during the marriage and splits that value 50/50. A prenuptial agreement allows you and your partner to "stay in the driver's seat." It is a valid, binding contract that sets out different terms and conditions from those provided by the Family Law Act or the Divorce Act. It allows you to define your own rules for fairness based on your unique circumstances. What You Can Include in Your Agreement A robust marriage contract drafted by the strategic team at Sterling Law can cover: Pre-Marital Assets: Identifying property you are bringing into the marriage and documenting its value to ensure it stays separate. Family Property Division: Deciding exactly how the matrimonial home, shared assets or other assets held by each of you will be dealt with if separation occurs. Spousal Support: Agreeing in advance on whether support will be payable, and if so, how much or for how long. Household Responsibility: Allocating economic responsibility for running the household during the marriage. Estate Planning: Agreeing on what happens to property if one spouse should pass away, which is critical for those with children from previous relationships. What You Cannot Include It is a common misconception that you can settle everything in a "prenup." Under Canadian law, you cannot make enforceable arrangements regarding: Custody and Access (Parenting Time): The courts decide this based on the "best interests of the child" at the time of separation. Child Support: You cannot contract out of the Federal Child Support Guidelines, as child support is considered the right of the child. Do You Specifically Need a Prenuptial Agreement? While every couple can benefit from the clarity an agreement provides, certain situations make a marriage contract essential for protecting your wealth and preserving your legacy. 1. You Are a Business Owner or Professional If you own a private corporation, a professional practice, or have significant stock options, these are "complex assets" that can be difficult to value and divide years later. A prenuptial agreement can shield your business from being liquidated or carved up during a divorce, ensuring business succession planning remains intact. 2. You Have a Significant Inheritance or Family Trust Under Ontario law, inheritances received during a marriage are generally excluded from equalization— unless they are put into the matrimonial home or comingled with family funds. An agreement ensures that family wealth stays within your bloodline and is protected from unintentional equalization. 3. This is a Second Marriage For those entering a relationship later in life, you likely have more assets and, potentially, children from a previous marriage. A contract is vital to ensure that your "Legacy" is preserved for your children while still being fair to your new spouse. The Sterling Law Approach: Sophisticated and Strategic With over 30 years of experience, we at Sterling Law understand that we are working with real people with unique situations and aspirations. We don't believe in "cookie-cutter" legal documents. We offer tailored strategies grounded in financial acumen and empathy. Proactive Protection of Your Future We guide you through the process of Financial Disclosure , which is the "gold standard" for making a prenuptial agreement enforceable. If both parties do not fully and honestly disclose their assets and debts before signing, the contract could be set aside by a court later. Our integrated approach helps you take control, reducing the stress that comes with life’s transitions. Negotiation vs. Litigation While we are skilled negotiators dedicated to reaching respectful, private resolutions through collaborative family law and mediation, we are also skilled litigators. If an agreement is challenged, or if the other party is being unreasonable, we are prepared to defend your interests and your assets in court. Securing Your Peace of Mind Marriage is one of life’s most significant periods of growth. By addressing the "what ifs" now, you allow yourself and your spouse to focus on building a life together without the looming cloud of legal uncertainty. A prenuptial agreement is not a sign of distrust; it is a sign of respect for each other’s hard-earned assets and a commitment to transparency. At Sterling Law, we are more than just lawyers; we are your partners in protecting your wealth and securing your family’s future. From our home in Brampton to the vibrant communities of Richmond Hill and Vaughan, we are here to help you navigate this moment with confidence and discretion. Are you ready to protect your personal and business assets before your big day?
By Sterling Law Office September 26, 2024
Every parent wants the best for their kids, but it seems impossible when emotions run high separating from a partner […] The post How To Be Better Co-Parents During A High-Conflict Divorce appeared first on STERLING LAW.
By Sterling Law Office September 17, 2024
If you and your partner are planning to separate, this is one of the first questions to come up.  Can […] The post Can My Child Decide Who To Live With? appeared first on STERLING LAW.
By Sterling Law Office September 10, 2024
If you’ve just started researching for a potential separation and divorce as a parent, you might have seen the terms […] The post What’s the Difference Between Child Custody, Parenting Time, and Decision Making? appeared first on STERLING LAW.
By Sterling Law Office September 6, 2024
When a couple goes through a high-conflict divorce, the whole family including grandparents do too. It’s natural for grandparents to […] The post Do Grandparents Have Visitation Rights During A High-Conflict Divorce? appeared first on STERLING LAW.
By Sterling Law Office August 27, 2024
Unfortunately, hiding assets during a divorce happens quite frequently. Your spouse or common law partner can either transfer their assets […] The post How To Handle Hidden Assets During A Divorce? appeared first on STERLING LAW.